I’m a 54-year-old man, recently separated from my wife of 31 years - just earlier this month. Honestly, I’m already feeling bored and lonely, so I’ve been considering trying out dating apps (I’ve never used one before). However, my sons (30 and 28) tell me it’s a waste of time and possibly even a scam, and I’ve seen similar opinions online. So I’m not sure what to think.
Don’t do this, if this is an input into your app’s algorithm at all it’ll assume you’re ugly and desperate and not show you to anyone. Only swipe on people you’d be at least potentially excited to meet and that could actually work out (e.g. don’t swipe right on someone who’s profile says “I want a man of god” if you’re a hardcore atheist). I shifted to this strategy on hinge and it made a noticeable difference in the number and quality of matches.
Think about it - if you only swipe right on good matches (for both of you), they’ll see you and be more likely to swipe right on you, improving your match rate. And don’t worry about how their level of attractiveness plays into this, because it’ll be weighted for that.
I devinetively had some principles. Anyone who stated that they are rightwing, believed in some form of conspiracy theories, looked like they just need someone’s money to spend, whose profile looks like whose whole personality is how they look like and people that I simply didnt thought looked attractive did not get a right swipe. This sorted out about 20% or so of the people the Algorithm showed to me. The rest got a right swipe, because they looked somewhat attractive and had no really obvious dealbreakers. They might have some things that I may not really like, but would be willing to overlook (e.g. smoking).