I make significantly less at 100% rating than I would if I had been able to stay in my career since I was medically separated or if I was able to do the same thing as a civilian (easily over 6 figures). It’s still much more than poverty level, but the $46k I’ll get this year just can not compete with what I could have had.

I know that much of the value in my benefits is free medical though, and that adds up fast when you suddenly have pronounced weakness in half your body and doctors can’t figure out why

When I was going through evaluation to start hormonal transition my primary care doc’s nurse asked me to explain what non-binary is, and when I figured it out. I explained the things I told the doctor who evaluated me, thinking that if it was good enough for her, it should be good enough for this nurse.

My nurse told me I just hate the patriarchy and that’s why I hate myself. Lol

I never understood why anyone local drove through it. Tourists I can understand, but it’s a drive it once and “holy cow that was a bad idea” experience

Oh, yeah. I didn’t mean to imply that getting a job with a disability is easy or that employers actually follow laws. I was more trying to point out that a personality disorder is a disability, because most people won’t see it that way

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My therapist told me that a diagnosis of a mental health disorder means you have a disability*. So if they choose not to hire you because of your ASPD diagnosis, in the US at least, that’s discrimination against a protected class. I have AvPD, and that was a concern for me too

*(although many disorders don’t always earn the label “disability” when a person is seeking benefits)

I’m 5’3 (160cm) and feel like I am invisible to trucks when I’m in a parking lot. It also feels like they’ve doubled their height (or more) over the last ten-15 years

Maybe you can use a reloadable visa card?

I like to wear them in places with fluorescent lighting, but some people really get uncomfortable with that. Sometimes I imagine they must be feeling the same thing I feel when I need to make eye contact during a long conversation

That is something my mother said to me a lot. Along with, “I brought you into this world, and I can take you out of it”. It’s fucked up, because it’s not like anyone chooses to be born. These are not normal things for a parent to say by any means. It’s emotional abuse.

You deserve better than that! It’s not easy cutting ties with family, but life is a lot easier when you’re not dealing with such a toxic, resentful human in your life.

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