Eh. As an adult I get to fully choose which side I’m on. And going off of the facts I had at the time, id choose the side of not being with a cheating power abuser
But since more facts have been stated besides just i dont feel like it, its easier to pick a diffrent side.
This wasn’t cheater vs homophobe at first
I’m only stopping now cause OP cleared the situation up more.
Otherwise, I’d say I feel sorry for your mother. To have a child that wouldn’t have their back in that situation must be upsetting.
This person likes victim blaming
I see where you’re coming from. And I’m sorry that happened to you. Truly.
But OP only stated they dont want to go because well, it didn’t really effect them so why bother? So maybe I took this all wrong and I’m sorry if I did.
But for OP to be so dismissive of his mother’s feeling because he wants to continue hanging out with his dad is choosing a side.
Like, OP isn’t saying that mom says i have to move out but she’s never really been there for me. Or she makes bad decisions. Or some other reason would have me way more supportive. Just, I like hanging with my dad cause we’re best friends
But the dad is clearly not the best role model as he makes bad choices. He didn’t sleep with some random women. He didn’t sleep with one of his equal power co workers.
He slept with his young assistant. Which is not only shitty for the cheating reasons, but that’s literally abuse of power. Then as soon as the mom left, before the divorce is final, he moved her into the home which once house OPs family as if its no big deal
And OP acts like its nothingl and the mom is actually the bad person for feeling hurt.
The question could have been how do I tell my mom I still would like to have a relationship with my father after all this went down. But no. This whole question was looking for validation to not actually have to go with his mom for selfish reasons.
Oh wait? This isn’t about 2 gay men so its equal?
Ahhh. Yeah. Its all her fault. I understand OPs dilemma now
Edit: /s
Yes, cause letting your child not only live with a cheater but the young ASSISTANT he fucked while still going through with your divorce is such a good move.
The dad obviously doesn’t make good choices. He’s only thinking about himself. And the child already thinks theyre the greatest.
Im not saying parents should never talk to their kids. But thats what’s going to happen if OP stays in the house with is dad and his YOUNG ASSISTANT THAT MOVED IN BEFORE THE DIVORCE SHE CAUSED IS EVEN FINAL
Yup, but the dad here instead DID just moved on and brought the side chick into their old family home
Maybe I just care for my mother more. Idk
Can’t imagine living with the side chick during the divorce
Hey, that person isn’t a good role model and did something absolutly deplorable. For whats best for you, you shouldnt talk to them again or else I fear your going to look up to them and also consider doing that in the future. And thats the last thing I want for you. That person needs to understand there are consequences for their actions.
Seems like a reasonable to say to your child
Maybe add in a maybe if they really clean up their actions you can talk to them later, but the divorce is literally still happening as well as the side chick having already moved in
Maybe not in a perfect world. But here there are clearly very opposing sides.
Even if the dad is cool about it and makes it seem like choosing to stay with him isn’t picking a side, it still is
My recommendation is not to side with the guy who not only had an affair but invited Ms side peice to live in their old family home
Then OP better be fine never talking to their mom again
Says the one drawing conclusions to make the dad seem better
“Maybe she was actually a piece of shit, you never know”
Congrats on blaming the victim!
Man fucked his assistant behind his wife’s back and he’s just “partially” wrong
One choice is helping a faithful parent grieve, the other is to say fuck you to that person and stand by a cheater.
Such a difficult choice.
The problem with this dicks fine persons arguement is your choosing sides either way. Its unfortunate but true. And do you want to stand on the side of the person who didn’t cheat, or the one who did
Inaction is still an action
Also, you say im cherry picking but you’re the one going around saying “read point 2 again” as if your not cherry picking your own commandments
Still ain’t an airport. Don’t have to announce your departure.
My argument has been the same since the beginning as literally the first comment. Sticking with dad is also choosing the new chick in the mom’s eyes. What dad did is deplorable and OP staying with shows their morals and lack of them
Because it’s lack of respect to your partner.
Literally hundreds of regular instances. Instances that still have NSFW on them.
But they decided they needed to be surrounded by porn to be happy.
It’s the message you give to the person your supposed to be faithful to. A message that, to be happy, I need to have porn around me at any given time.
Which, kinda shows why he’s working on marriage number 2 in my book.
You would be happy if your partner had the easiest choice to not make their account on the porn instance but still did?
Ocoee 1920 - "The bloodiest election in modern American history”
Was when a group a African-American land owners tried to vote, but a certain racist white group stopped them at the polls.
After some African American men still tried to vote, got turned away, then came back later to get the suppressors names like an Orlando judge advised them to do, the white people went full KKK and started killing up to 60 African-Americans and burning thier prominent buildings. The deceased had their bodies torn apart for ‘trophies’. The surviving African-Americans were forced out if they didnt leave on thier own will
The one upside is 2 Klan members were killed during.
Still absolutely vile though
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