My dad has recently been caught having an affair with his young personal assistant. Huge scandal; mom was very angry. Now they’re in the middle of divorce proceedings. Mom moved out, the other woman moved in and I chose to stay with him because we’re super close; he’s like my best friend. Now mom’s telling me to go and live with her and go no contact with him cause he’s a bad person and by continuing having a relationship with him I’m condoning his actions and “ignoring her suffering”. My relationship with my dad hasn’t changed, I don’t see why I should end it.
Why is your mom the one that moved out? Also, the affaire partner moved in?
He’s your best friend, so you three like hang out and watch movies together as a new family while your mom sulks in an appartment alone?
Not only does your dad suck but so do you. Maybe one day, you will get cheated on and understand the betrayal it feels like. Hopefully, you wont have children to drive the knife in even deeper. Relationships are suppose to change with a parent who has an affaire, it’s abnormal not to be angry at what he did to your mother.
What an odd thing for an adult to say. I feel bad for you, do you get mad at the tv as well? Life isn’t a reality show and people’s emotions are not logical. Secondly making you child choose to take a side in divorce is 100 not healthy.
I would get mad at my tv if it cheated on my mother? Kind of does feel like a reality show with the father cheating, kicking his wife out and bringing in his affaire partner so they can be a happy family against with the new substitute.
What a joke comment.
You’re the type of person who gets mad your significant other cheated in your dream. So much personal projections in the novella you crafted about this guys family, I’m sure you got all the facts Detective Grimy.
dO yOu GeT mAd At ThE tV aS weLl??
It’s extra funny to me that you don’t understand that I was insinuating that your intelligence was to dull to differentiate reality from a broadcast sitcom.
Lol, I got what you meant, it’s literally the rest of the comment. It took me a few though, you kind of said it in a silly way. It also brings nothing to the conversation, hence why I’m mirroring your bad attitude.
I don’t have a bad attitude, I merely suggest that life isn’t as black and white as you so badly desire that it is blinding and binding you unto a zealous fanatic.
Pick a lane.
I’m going with a third option. I can have a great attitude and think you’re a moron. It happens every day.
Tell me one thing.
Is that much better to find out that your husband is leaving you for other person by his word before it happens rather than a time after it happened by yourself?
For my understanding most of the pain comes not for the lie, but for the fact that the people you love no longer loves you back and it’s leaving you. And you cannot force love or cohabitation to anyone.
I’m assuming his mom found out after the fact, nothing the OP said when I commented pointed to the opposite.
Also, regardless if he told her or if she found out by herself, there is no question that the cheater is the asshole in this situation. Admitting to an affair doesnt suddenly make it okay or take away the pain.
What I mean is that the level of pain would be similar if he would have not cheated and would just have left her, and after leaving her he would have started another relationship. No cheating at all involved.
Sorry I misunderstood. In that case, cheating definitely hurts more I would say. It’s more of a betrayal then a break up imo. Its a bit like the difference between having 10$ stolen and losing 10$, or the difference between scratching your car on a branch and having someone key it. Depending on the person’s social circle, it’s a lot more humiliating being cheated on.
There’s also stds or just the fact that your significant other might have slept with someone else a few hours ago and then climbs in bed and has relations with you right after. And we are talking about 20 years of marriage in this case, I can’t imagine how disrespectful it must feel.
Both scenarios suck thought.